Thoughts on Father's Day

I wanted to honor my husband today by writing about him. If you don't know him well you just see a quiet guy and maybe you wonder what he's thinking. If you don't know him, you won't know that he actually is very funny and when he is serious, speaks volumes of wisdom. You wouldn't know that he married his complete opposite and is a fantastic and amazing husband. By just looking at him, you wouldn't know, that he is a father also.

Emerie made him a father. Even though he only could feel her through my skin, even though he could only watch as she was wheeled away to the NICU, he loved her with a fathers heart.  That is something no one could know by just looking at him. He didn't get to swaddle her or change her diaper, or watch her grow, or teach her how to walk, but his love just grows and grows. His fatherhood looks different than the typical dad. Instead of physically doing things, he constantly talks about his lovely daughter and keeps her memory alive. He works really hard to provide for our family, even if she isn't here. Brandon is the best dad because he watched his daughter pass away, and instead of giving up or running away, he chose to stay with me and continue this parenthood that looks nothing like the norm.

I know it's not just about today, but I wanted to recognize Brandon and all fathers who have lost children. You are still a father, and that will never change. And I venture to even say that maybe your love is so huge that sometimes you can go crazy trying to pour it out of you. Don't be afraid to cry, it is not weakness, but actually strength in the love you have for your child. 

Brandon, thank you for loving Emerie and Elie through the various things you say and do. You are a great Father! 

Happy Fathers Day Everyone.

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